Updated: May 5, 2019
by Sue Methuen
We had been married a few short years and life was good. My husband and I were both older (in our 40’s) when we met and truly appreciated each other in ways that our younger selves may not have. We enjoyed others company and there was a peace and harmony in our day-to-day lives which were things I truly valued.
So, why did I want more?
In the two years that we dated my (then) boyfriend took me to fancy restaurants, plays and concerts. He would surprise me with flowers and gifts at times. Time went by and like many married couples, those little favors slowly melted away into the normalcy of a daily life filled with work, chores and the odd date night.
Life was good.
My husband was always attentive, telling me he loved me daily and giving lots of hugs and kisses. I loved that! He was an amazing support to my son and me. We worked as a team and life was good. But somewhere deep inside I yearned for the romance of the dating days.
Could I ask for more?
The one thing I learned (in my later years) was not to assume your partner knows what you want. If you truly want something, ask for it. But do so in a way that is respectful and loving. So, I approached my husband and gently expressed my desires.
“Honey, I want you to know that I truly love our lives together. If I compared our marriage to a cake, it would be my favorite - vanilla on the inside and wonderful rich chocolate icing all over. It’s so good! However, sometimes it’s really nice to have chocolate sprinkles on the cake too, just to add that little bit extra. I miss the chocolate sprinkles.”
He listened carefully, nodding a couple of times showing that he heard me.
Weeks went by and soon it was our anniversary. We agreed to exchange cards and go out for a nice meal. I dressed up a bit and came downstairs, ready to give my husband his card when I saw a blue box with a white ribbon on it on the table.
“What is this?” I said, “we agreed no gifts this year.”
Inside my head I was thinking I hadn’t bought him anything. We agreed not to this year. What am I going to do? He gently brought me out of those thoughts by telling me to open it. I did and there was the most beautiful pearl necklace I had ever seen! I looked at my husband with tears in my eyes.
He smiled broadly and simply said, “Happy Chocolate Sprinkles.”
I was so touched by this incredible act of romance. I threw my arms around him, laughing and saying that he was good for 10 years now!
We will be married 18 years this year. Whenever we go out somewhere special, I wear that pearl necklace with such pride. I still smile when I think of that special moment those many years ago, and I have certainly experienced many other romantic moments over the years.
What I have truly come to realize is that the incredible “cake and icing” of our happy daily lives is the true “chocolate sprinkles” of our marriage. For that I am so grateful.
Happy Valentine's Day!